Let’s Be Real about the Mess
Belinda started a discussion on Facebook the other day about the reality of homes with people, you know, actually living in them. I had already taken these photographs and had a blog post in the works so it was a natural fit for me to go ahead and write it. We have 4 kids in our home. All. Day. Long. We home-school, so there are 3 kids who eat 3 meals a day here. Every day of the week. The baby does not make a mess yet…he’s only 8 weeks old. So you add that up. Just in kids that is 9 plates, 9 cups, 9 pieces of silverware….at a minimum. Not to mention my husband and I. We strive to eat a family dinner every night. Anyways, between home-school, laundry, meals, and creating family moments, cleaning can take a backseat all the time at times.
Don’t let this fool you. This table is clean by default. We do school on it and since we always eat here it has to stay clean. Look closely and will likely find some red sharpie marker stains. And just around the corner….
And the laundry. Oh the never ending laundry. My nemesis.
And several of us love to read, but apparently NONE of us can put our books away properly.
And dishes air drying.
And there you have it. An honest look at our home… at least when you stop by unexpectedly. And I will tell ya, it is hard to take these photos. I had to resist the temptation to clean it first.
Ok, Belinda here. I decided I’d join Kristen and get real too. Like her, I had to resist the urge to clean before taking pictures. But then I remembered the point of this post. Nobody’s perfect and I think we as moms tend to be too hard on ourselves. I think we tend to strive so hard to look like we have it all together because if we let people see the truth, they might judge us. I have to remind myself that a true friend won’t think less of me because my counters are cluttered, or the floor needs to be mopped. A true friend will ignore the piles of laundry and doesn’t mind stepping over toys. Truth is, my house does get cluttered. Dishes don’t always get done right away. My windows haven’t been washed in months. My bathrooms desperately need a good deep cleaning (esp with 5 boys who can’t seem to aim!). But at then end of the day, my kids are cared for and loved. A family LIVES here. So with that being said, here are some pics from my house today. And I will even admit that some days are worse ( I was able to make my bed today!). I hate having cluttered counters but with 6 kids, it’s inevitable. Between mail, school papers and projects, cups that seem to appear out of nowhere and belong to “noboby”, keys, and misc. stuff, I can’t keep them clear for more than 10 minutes.
Dishes from dinner last night and from baking valentine brownies for 2 classes that frankly I was just too tired to deal with at 9:00 pm.
My room. Two piles of sorted laundry on the floor and 3 loads waiting to be sorted on the bed. And there was another load in the dryer. It never ends around here! Hard to tell in the pic but my carpet really needs vacuuming and my dresser and nightstands need to be dusted. One of the boys left his latest book on our floor along with a blanket they dragged in with them at 5am. You can’t see it but my dresser is also piled with school papers, items to review, and a couple of mystery cups.
Our entryway drive me crazy!! Most days, I have to climb over the mountain of backpacks, coats and hats. Bring on spring!! We have hooks but no one can ever seem to actually hang their coats up.
So there’s just a small peak at our house on a normal day. Would I like to have a spotless house? Yes. But life happens. And that’s okay.
So what about you? Do you have a pinterest worthy home or does it look like ours?
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My apartment looks like your house!! And I live alone–well with a cat who loves to throw things around–bat things on the floor-etc etc etc–and according to what I’ve read–nature and the world itself tends to be messy–so who am I to try to fool Mother Nature!! Relax and enjoy your life and your family!!
I love this post! With 4 kids it is so hard to keep a spotless house. Having two 1 year olds that have learned to throw everything out of toy bins, a 6 year old girl who wants to change clothes 3x a day, and an 11 year old boy that doesn’t know what a hamper or a hook is for is very challenging. I have had to learn to deal with people seeing our mess on occasion because we live on a military base so you never know who will just pop in real quick.
Thank you ladies!
Ahh…refreshing. I have three kids that are home 24/7. Well, my oldest goes to half day preschool three days a week, but for the most part they are here. I work full time. it is nice to know that others don’t have Southern Living homes like me. Sometimes I wonder if I am the only one who can’t keep a spotless house. Thanks for sharing ladies
I hear you. It’s tough to keep a clean house and while I’d love to have one I also realize it’s not something that will last forever and I pick my battles.
I have piles around my house too.
I wouldve to have a spotless house but with 4 kids, pregnant w/ our 5th and homeschooling it’s nearly impossible to keep a tidey house. I do what I can, my 2 older boys help by doing their chores. Praise God my husband is understanding and helpful!
Hey, looks like my house and there is only 3 of us here.
Nothing wrong with a messy house, just means you are having more fun doing other things.
our house looks just like that! 3 kids here to make messes & clean up after.. My yougest is two..so she makes the biggest messes
You are awesome for doing this post! As a new mom I get tons of visitors and I get so embarrased when my apartment is messy or doesn’t look perfect like some of my friend’s houses, but I have a baby , a doggie and i work 2 jobs therefore I have no time, I do clean, my apartment is just tiny and sometimes there are laundry piles and dishes in the sink but I choose to spend time with my baby when I have a free moment, the dishes can wait until later so thanks for not posting “unreal” expectation pictures of a clean, neat home ..though it does look clean anyways!
Thank you ALL for the kind comments. It is so nice to know that we are not alone. And Liz T. I would have to agree with your statements about the dishes waiting so you can be with your baby. =) THanks everyone!